Delusions from reality?

Hi there, I want to talk about something that sometimes can, bring on stress after having a baby. And your mind plays games with you, causing you to create stories which aren’t true. Like being in a loveless relationship, that only tares you down, giving you no support. One that sits, there to watch you care for their children. Zero ambition no thrive to make a steady income for your love ones, only conning love ones is what you wake up in the morning each day. You have no clue what is going on in the world. You make up your reality, depending on others to fix your own fixed lies, creating a story you believe is real. The thing is it’s time to come down from your illusions, stop tricking people, and stop lying to yourself that person will never change, you need to make a breakthrough and walk away from that tainted relationship if the person you are with isn’t willing to uplift you or motivate you, not wanting to provide for their children? It’s time to get up and leave the relationship. It’s hard yes but they have services for women who have left an abusive relationship. Remember what your children see they will repeat, and you don’t want your daughter or son growing up not wanting to make something of themselves. Be their teacher of hope and ambition. Don’t give up on them, because being in an abusive relationship is giving up on them. Leave that situation because there are only three, ways it 1. he beats you into selling your body for money 2. Puts you in the hospital 3. He puts you in a grave. Those can become your reality very quickly love is truly blind, don’t become a victim in a delusion if a man can beat a woman and then apologize, to her showering her with gifts. It’s a weak individual it’s the honeymoon faze beat, apologize, gifts, until he gots you emotionally. As hard as it is to leave you must do it for your children, he doesn’t love you or himself it’s time to expect that do not wait, for him to get better because he will never change he is comfortable with the situation once you are free from his guilt don’t you dare look back or talk to him with smooth as butter he will try to convince you he has changed. Don’t fall for it because it’s been a short time since he has shifted. Those people are better off alone the only way they can change is mentally and through a lot of counselling. Some I believe can change if they work at it, while others don’t agree that will come up with every excuse that they don’t need that kinda help. Knowing the first signs of abuse will prevent you from being trapped in an abusive relationship 1. –Knowing the person for years including their families, and friends how close they are with them. 2. -anger or blow-ups 3. -Verbally abusive to others 4. -Jealous behaviours or giving you an allowance with your own money 5. -Physically hurts you, anyway example grabbing, your arm or Swiftly putting pressure on your wrist. 6. -constantly asking to check your phone 7. –Text messages and phone calls asking your whereabouts – “when you said you’re going to work”. 8. Threats about leaving this relationship – “just say bye, believe me, it’s not worth the stress”. 9. He cheats on you to control the relationship 10. Tells you to call him but ignores your text and phone calls those are 10 signs to run. If you get pregnant by him he has more leverage over you. My advice is to know the person before committing know the signs and recognize them. The first hit is a warning to run. There’s no excuse for anyone to hit you don’t get caught up in a charming delusion. The abuser will always tell you it’s your fault and then apologize, they prey on women who are desperate for love, don’t let them have power over your life and it doesn’t matter what you did in your, past no one deserves to be disrespected, treated like garbage remember this the devil is a lier. Remember to speak positive affirmations I can do it and if I can’t I’ll ask for help. Thanks for reading my blog