When to intervene.

Hi there, everyone I want to talk about the topic of when to intervene in a situation, where the child’s needs, are being neglected and what you can do as a parent. The first thing is you need to talk with the mama bird and try and come up with a resolution. In the area that is difficult for her to handle, it’s to relieve the stress she is feeling. Now no one is perfect we, all have our struggles, but what if you tried to talk to the mama and she still won’t listen to you, what if it’s your children, with a problem? It’s a hard decision yes, but everything is for the well-being of the child, so if you as a family unit talked with her I mean you tried an intervention? Periodically it works other times it’s senseless, and waste, of time especially if you already know the outcome. That mama’s intuition kicks you, it’s an angel messenger announcing, to you to move your feet. So how do you, go about this without a fight down? You do it legally, obtain the proper documents, to serve the mama, because unfortunately, a lot of women fall into depression, which could be, from the loss of a job, insecurities or a poor, relationship etc. They start to pick up addictions, drinking or, drugs, some even verbally abuse their children or abuse them physically. The reason I say get the proper papers ready is that you, don’t want the mother to disappear with the child, from feeling the pressure to hand, over the child for proper care. and now im going to share with you a well-known independent, non-profit organization run by a board of directors elected from the local community or, in the case of two Indigenous societies, band councils. That’s what the internet, implying children’s aids society, it’s complete garbage, someone who lived in the system from age 13 to 19, I can tell you it’s not worth putting your family member there, it’s a bunch of people looking to make a difference, (yeah right) to take in children, and they get a big fat cheque for doing it. When the child has a behaviour problem. They send them back to the system, and the social worker promises the new home will be better, and suitable for their well-being, those group homes mess the child up more thinking, and the right solution to their problem is to put them, On Some kinda horse tranquillizer. And when you get angry they say it’s to protect you by placing you on the floor in a basket hold, (restrainment) you sometimes come out of it with bruises. And the budget for the system is lacking, the food for grocery shopping is inexpensive and somewhat, nutritious, and not enough, you have to do chores for which you get a dollar a day, or could pick up extra chores, to make a good 15$ by the end of the week. And let me tell you about the bedroom situation with alarm locks on the door, which you have to knock so hard to inform the staff which are downstairs. The alarms are ridiculous, sounding off if you leave, your bedroom, they say it’s to notify them if you will – run away. which makes no sense because they can’t reach you in time. As the whistles blow off. Some may say the system is the best option for your children, but they are liars or paid to say otherwise.

proceeding to the washroom was like a mission sometimes impossible, and if you we’re younger, you’ll end up wetting your pants, it’s a sad situation but unfortunately, it happens. And to entertain the residents it’s movie night every Friday-Saturday night, and in the summertime, camping at Wasaga beach. Camping trials, and at the end of the week we get to go to wonderland. “Yahoo” every year.

You think it’s fun right but the headache, of kids getting out of control and everyone, having to leave because of it, it’s a wonderful way to end the summer. All my birthdays were a disaster nothing fun about growing up in a group home or foster care it’s all a lie and once you turn 17 it’s time to move forward to another group home for adolescence, nothing new it’s the same treatment, doors with alarms on it but you must get a job, or be in, school to live there or they will throw you out of the program. If you get pregnant, you have to live in another group home for pregnant teenagers. You’re still considered underage to sign, yourself out of the program. It happened to my group home mate we met in the group home for children under 16 or if they were ready and matured enough they graduate to the next level of responsibility. I was living there with young teens 17- 18 years old who I’d seen leave by authorities there were some with a disability. I’ve seen situations I, didn’t want to be part of. I’ve seen real abuse and also staff instigating a situation. To get a negative reaction from the child, it’s truly disgusting. For someone, who works with children. And they are sure quick to call the police officials on you when they are so-called trained to handle the situation. Or send you to the hospital’s psychiatric Ward, if you are showing feelings of depression, or an eating disorder, believe me, I’ve been through it everything was my experience being taken out of your home as a child has a real disadvantage on the child growth my brother and I both grew up in the system and it’s a nightmare recalling my life events up to the age of 19 to leave the group home, and move back with my mom to encounter more abuse. And ages 21-22 were no picnic so much verbal abuse and physical abuse, from trying to help someone I grew up with. That’s the person who you thought had ambition a plan for their children and there, life abuses their children physically and mentally. Also took your shoes. So you couldn’t leave. It’s sad and scary to be burned with a lighter on your back drugged etc. Sleeping on the floor in a closet. Being told constantly to kill myself, during all those unfortunate events I encountered, help me, acknowledge people’s ill intentions toward me, and also help me have the patience to be a good mother and no matter ,what or the stress my kid brings not give up I’m not alone. I was never alone the guardian angel that, God sent to remove me from a lot of dangerous situations. Even though my family wasn’t there someone, up there had other plans for me. If you must intervene do it with compassion and care and legal action, but keep the children’s aid system out of it. don’t listen to the lies because they are not going to be where they place your children, and monitor their well-being by speaking from experience. My advice is families come together as one unit. Figure out away work together. Remember to speak positive affirmations I can do it, and if I can’t I will ask for help.